Childhood Incidents & Regression Memories Trigger
Past Life Traumas
Specific incidents in childhood reactivate or trigger latent past life experiences that belong to the inherited or karmic level of the complex presenting for therapy. These incidents carry a symbolic resonance with the specific past life trauma that they trigger.
Phobias and exaggerated reactions to loss or separation often prove to have such past life roots. Illnesses are another avenue that respond well to regression and the dispensing of the underlying causes.
The re-living of a past life story can be even more painful and dramatic than the re-living of a current life experience. In order to avoid this, I do regression work differently than other regression therapist. The suggestion is made to the client to remain in observer mode watching a movie rather than allowing themselves to get sucked into the drama in the first person by remaining in reactive mode. Before we begin they are instructed to hang their emotions on a hook or place them in a box on a table outside the regression episode. In addition, through the use of tools I have created, the process can remain non-traumatic and non imprinting.
Recalling and processing the past life incident has the potential of resolving and dissipating the energy that has been bound to the complex since the originating incident no matter when it occurred.
Using my Cognitive and Emotional Deletion Processes followed by a reframe removes the trauma permanently by flattening the emotions attached to the incidents so that they do not trigger in the future. Closure thus being accomplished, spontaneous healing often occurs.
Prior to bringing the client back to the present moment, they are given the opportunity to decide the lessons they learned in the past life experience, gain insight into how these patterns are being played out in their current life, and decide for themselves which lessons would be most advantageous to carry into their present life.
Abandonment Issues in Childhood
As stated, past life experiences often interface with childhood abandonment stories and separation issues. Age and developmental stage has a huge effect on how deeply the child is imprinted with the feelings of loss, aloneness, isolation, and abandonment. With loss comes grief and the necessary process of mourning. Un-mourned in the past or parallel life, is un-mourned in the life the child is experiencing in the moment. If handled correctly by the care-givers, the child will not experience shame or embarrassment for feeling their pain. Past life sessions give the child the opportunity to understand the healing inherent in completing unfinished grief, fragments of which have re-surfaced in childhood. Regardless if the loss of the loved one is a temporary separation or a loss through death these are opportunities to teach the child that they are always attached to their loved ones through the energy of their love no matter what dimension they are in.
Nightmares in Childhood
There are many cases where a relatively innocuous stimulus such as the sight of a military uniform, a scene from a movie, or the sound of scuffling, may trigger a past life memory in the child’s deep unconscious. The child’s intense reaction may be suggestive of trauma or childhood abuse, but often there has been no abuse in this lifetime. What has been triggered is a past life memory in the child’s subconscious mind which is the repository of that soul’s Akashic records. Such residues often constitute the stuff of night terrors as they are replayed in the imagination by the unconscious in an attempt to finish with the post traumatic stress connected to the other life incident.
Reframing a Parental Image: Adult Regression to In-utero and Childhood
Regression to childhood is not always for the purpose of uncovering hate, relationships difficulties, aggression, or discordance; it can also uncover love in a healing way. Parents often turn out to be disappointing to their grown children but underneath the disappointment can be buried a perception of sincere caring by parents for the less complicated and demanding child that the adult once was. Most parents do not deliberately mentally or physically abuse their children. It can be devastating and puzzling for an older parent to hear that they damaged their child or are perceived negatively when they have done their best and cared deeply for the child. More frequently than not, parents are totally unaware they have emotionally or verbally abused or traumatized their child thus have hurt feelings when told so by their adult child. Denial of their behavior is frequent and that may be on a conscious or an unconscious level as a coping mechanism. Much of the anger toward parents could be lessened or dissolved if they could once again be perceived with a child’s eyes in the framework of adult understanding.
One of the ways to get to this place of understanding and reframing is for the adult to immerse himself in the feelings of himself as a child, which is possible in altered state work. Working from this emotional state versus the recitation of conscious memories is considerably more transformative. It has been said that in an altered state the feelings of childhood constantly become juxtaposed against the different feelings of the adult until the validity of both come to be recognized and balanced. I have found two ways of releasing negative feelings, resentments, and grudges toward parents that are effective. Once a person recognizes that the parent was doing the best they knew how to do and that includes the premise that in fact, they simply did not realize the long term effects of their behaviors toward the child, it is easier to forgive the parent. In the slight trance state of regression, the adult may well be able, through parent child bonding, to begin to recognize and feel their parent’s emotional state sufficiently to realize whatever damage was done was not intentional and thus they can forgive the parent. It is important to point out that the parent is not their actions anymore than the client is their actions. I finish by doing a Dissociation Protocol from the offending parent so that the client realizes they are not their parent or any version of their parent. They must be separate people in their mind since children frequently bond more with the offending parent and may have a sound basis of resentment if they have modeling themselves after the parent and do not like or approve of those behavior patterns in themselves.
One block to an easy recognition and acceptance of former childhood feelings is the existence of sub personalities, which usually emerge at the age of three or four. uch personalities are concerned with survival and are appropriate in childhood but later, when adult strength and competent functioning have developed, they continue on in spite of not being needed and the adult functions with unnecessary and inappropriate perceptions and behaviors. The release of such sub personalities allows the adult to function more harmoniously and also more rationally.
Forgiveness of anger even when the adult is open to forgiving is often made difficult or impossible by the continuing existence of such sub personalities. Only when the childhood feelings can be re-lived and the nature and survival function of the sub personalities be can be resolved can the true healing of forgiveness take place. Prior to such a resolution the attempt to forgive often meets a stone wall; it is sabotaged by the patterns and fears that belong to the sub personality.
The release of anger moves through several stages. The anger must first of be felt out to its furthest and deepest perimeters. Only then can the next steps of the forgiveness process take place and healing work be done, an important goal because the release of anger heals in a encompassing way, the body as well as the mind and the emotions. The second step is a search for the origin of the anger for we are seldom angry at what we think we are. The misperceptions about what underlies our anger blocks our ability to love or to be out true self. Anger is almost always rooted in and implemented by a sub personality, which needs to be uncovered, honored for its survival value no matter how negative its manifestation in adult life, and resolved, integrated or reduced in importance. Then within the framework of this new perspective anger can be released and forgiveness can take place.
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